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[The following is an adaptation of a bulletin insert created by Christian Life Resources for use by congregations everywhere. The insert can be downloaded here.]
A child, however, who had no important job
and could only see things as his eyes
showed them to him, went up to the carriage.
“The Emperor is naked,” he said.
~ From “The Emperor’s New
Clothes” by Hans Christian Andersen
Daniel Truett Cathy, Founder, Chairman and Chief Executive Officer of the fast food chain, “Chick-fil-A,” caused an uproar because of his stance on traditional marriage. In a radio interview in early summer of 2012 he said, “I think we are inviting God’s judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at Him and say, ‘We know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage.’”
Not only were the predictable liberal pundits and homosexual activists sharp and often nasty in their objections to his comments, some Christians even considered Dan Cathy and the Chick-fil-A franchise loveless in holding such a position.
Really? Isn’t it time we call out the truth on how naked this movement really is?
I offer the following arguments in defense of traditional marriage:
Marriage Is God’s Invention
The underlying presupposition of the movement to redefine marriage is that it is an evolved social convention of people who are smarter today than they were in the past. It is a natural outgrowth of an evolutionary mentality that perceives all growth, knowledge and experience as an achievement on a progressively higher level.
In fact, traditional marriage as an estate of life-long commitment between a man and a woman is not man’s invention to redefine but rather it is God’s invention for all time.
God speaks directly and clearly about marriage:
Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:23-24)
“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)
This relationship, later called marriage (Genesis 29:26), was defined by God in the Garden of Eden, and was established as the primary and foundational social relationship between human beings. Subsequently, God prescribed the perpetual nature of this relationship as stemming from the male/female relationship of a mother and father. It was reaffirmed in the New Testament by Jesus Christ as an enduring relationship,unchanged in its heterosexual components.
Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (Deuteronomy 11:19)
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)
Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. When I was a boy in my father’s house, still tender, and an only child of my mother, he taught me and said, “Lay hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands and you will live. Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or swerve from them. (Proverbs 4:1-5)
Marriage is the predominant component in the education of children. A man and a woman, as husband and wife, are charged with the training of their children in matters of wisdom and faith.
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (1 Timothy 5:8)
Man and woman, as husband and wife – together with their children – form the network of care and support for each other. The traditional family structure is foundational in God’s design for social stability and the care of others.
“‘Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.’” (Leviticus 18:22)
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion. (Romans 1:26-27)
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders. (1 Corinthians 6:9)
The Word of God in both the Old and New Testaments clearly condemns homosexual relationships. Those seeking to justify such same-sex relationships must deny the divine and inerrant nature of these words to continue in their convictions. God clearly rejects the homosexual relationship.
And he said to them: “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and, ‘Anyone who curses his father or mother must be put to death.’ But you say that if a man says to his father or mother: Whatever help you might otherwise have received from me is Corban’ (that is, a gift devoted to God), then you no longer let him do anything for his father or mother. Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that.” (Mark 7:9-13)
In Biblical times some unscrupulous people would pledge an oath according to Numbers 30:2 with the intent to avoid following God’s other commands. In this reference from Mark’s gospel, people neglected the care of their parents because they claimed their money was pledged to God (Corban). They favored one responsibility and ignored the other.
In like manner, when a same-sex couple seeks to be “married” and uses the oaths of traditional marriage – even conducting the ceremony in a Christian setting – they attempt to use God-prescribed oaths to justify doing contrary to God’s design. Homosexual unions which attempt to redefine marriage focus on the marriage oaths of devotion and commitment while trampling on God’s design for marriage. Sacred marriage promises of commitment within the context of a relationship that is condemned does not make the marriage legitimate.
Judicial efforts, legislative initiatives and voter referendums of the populace seeking to define marriage as anything other than the life-long committed relationship of a man and woman as husband and wife violate the clear Word of God. It is altering and redefining something already established by God.
In the public square Christians may be compelled by increasing sinfulness to permit relationships otherwise rejected by God (Matthew 19:8). Such accommodations, however, never permit anyone to obscure the truth by redefining that which God has already established.
Christian concern for the protection of traditional marriage begins with the preeminent concern of the soul of those who sin in this regard. Our goal is always to be clear (Colossians 4:4), to be patient, and to present the truth in a manner that is instructive (2 Timothy 4:2-5). We are to speak the truth and to always speak it in love (Ephesians 4:15).
In the end Christians must call out the nakedness of pro-gay marriage arguments. It is not a question of fairness but of correctness. The Creator defined marriage. Marriage is to provide for the continuance and further blessing of His premier creation, human beings. Messing with it in any way defies its Creator and cheapens our centerpiece human relationship.
Rev. Robert Fleischmann is the National Director of Christian Life Resources. He speaks throughout North America on the Biblical approach to various life and family issues and counsels people with God’s Word in correct decision-making.
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October 1st, 2004
The Painful Hook in 'Hooking Up'
by Paul Reisser, M.D. I hereby acknowledge a gap in my comprehension of current social mores and vernacular, the correction of which has been a cause for some alarm. For most of my...
October 1st, 2004
Study Suggests Link Between Gambling and Suicide
A study published this week in the journal Suicide and Threatening Behavior by a University of California, San Diego, sociologist has suggested a significant link between legalized...
October 1st, 2004
Is He The One?
Mom gives advice on what to look for when searching for "Mr. Right."Dear Daughter,Since you were a tiny baby, I've prayed for you: that you grow in your love for Jesus, that you find...
October 1st, 2004
How to Raise Godly Daughters
Tips to help you raise a unique Christian womenRaising godly daughters today is like flying a kite in a hurricane. The mighty winds of the world keep battering against us.Looking for...
October 1st, 2004
Institutional Devotions - 4
"Will I Ever See Anything Good In Life Again?"Luke 2:28-30 - Simeon took him in his arms and praised God, saying, "Sovereign Lord, as you have promised, you now dismiss...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 17
Isaiah 49:16 - See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.At any given time, there must be millions of sick people in this world. There must be hospitals, nursing homes, and...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 4
Matthew 11:28 - Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Restlessness seems to be a daily companion lately. Questions about my diagnosis and prognosis...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 3 of 6: Questions
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Premarital Relationships
In a bygone era, when people were still ashamed to talk about it (Ephesians 5:12), it was called cohabitation. Today's terms are more unashamedly descriptive: living together, shacking...
October 1st, 2004
First Years of Life Key to Faith
For centuries, the Jesuits have had a saying: Give us the first seven years ... What that means is simply this: If the Church catches you while you are young, chances are youll remain...
October 1st, 2004
Dad's Story: A Look at Christian Caregiving
IntroductionMy heart ached as I watched my father's body deteriorate. He had always been such a proud and determined man. Everyone who knew him admired his gentle and caring manner....
October 1st, 2004
Love and Respect in Ephesians 5
Christianity Today, the largest evangelical Protestant periodical in our country, recently conducted a major survey of 1,250 subscribers who were chosen at random. Close to 750 subscribers...
October 1st, 2004
How You Can Parent Your Teen
Nine tips you can use to strengthen your family.Twenty years ago, being a father seemed rather easy--challenging, but not terribly complicated. Fairly regular devotions, rules about...
October 1st, 2004
Tips for Witnessing Your Faith
QUESTION: I am recently employed. I'm a Christian and love the Lord dearly but have a hard time proclaiming him at work. As soon as someone mocks God, I do nothing to defend his holy...
October 1st, 2004
Institutional Devotions - 3
"I Don’t Feel Like I Deserve God’s Help"Luke 5:8,10 - When Simon Peter saw this, he fell at Jesus’ knees and said, "Go away from me, Lord: I am a sinful...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 16
1 Corinthians 15:42-43 - The body that is sown...is sown in weakness, it is raised in power.This must be said about long life: it really can wear a person out. When you were 20, you...
October 1st, 2004
The Great Physician at My Bed - 1
On Entry"Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)We go to doctors because we need help. Our bodies hurt. In our suffering Jesus invites...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 3 of 6: Answers
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Sex Within Marriage
Read the following passages: Genesis 2:24 - For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.1 Corinthians 7:2-5 - But...
October 1st, 2004
A Mom and a Dad - Involvement of Both Stressed
While society debates homosexual adoption, marriage experts remind us why kids thrive best when a mother and father are involved. Glenn Stanton, senior research analyst for marriage...
October 1st, 2004
Sympathy: Feeling With Others, Not For Them
When we sympathize with others, we are led into action, following Jesus' command to love one another as he loved us."Sympathy is cold to the relation of distant misery," wrote Edward...
October 1st, 2004
Our Marriage Mechanic
Determining, "Who's to blame?" requires spouses to be on opposing teams. Husbands and wives become teammates when they ask, "What exactly is wrong, and how do we fix it?""You're late....
October 1st, 2004
The Joy of Being a Christian Mother
The kids tell me there are certain statements I make with definite regularity: "Whoever washed the dishes, get back down here!" "What happened to the light bulbs I bought yesterday?"...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 15
1 Corinthians 15:42-43 - "The body that is sown...is sown in weakness, it is raised in power."This must be said about long life: it really can wear a person out. When you...
October 1st, 2004
The Great Physician at My Bed - 2
On Entry"It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick." (Matthew 9:12)We weaken and become ill, or some serious problem in the body sends us to a hospital for treatment. God...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 4 of 6: Questions
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Would You Like to Go to a Movie?
Solomon Wrote (Ecclesiastes 1:9): "What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun."I think of this passage often as I counsel...
October 1st, 2004
Gay Marriage Commentary
On May 17, 2004, the state of Massachusetts legalized gay marriage. Approximately one percent of the U.S. population (or at least those living in Massachusetts) who comprise the "gay...
October 1st, 2004
Mate or Marriage?
Sex Views Harmful, Study SaysYoung adults still value marriage, but their views on sex aren't setting them up for marital success, according to a report by the National Marriage Project...
October 1st, 2004
The Purity Ring
Most little girls dream of the day they will meet their Prince Charming. A young woman begins preparing to meet the real love of her life when she is still harboring her Barbie dolls,...
October 1st, 2004
Turning Back the Clock
Turning Back the ClockIt's the season for high school graduations. Where has the time gone? What will our young people do with the time in front of them, the rest of their lives? For...
October 1st, 2004
Institutional Devotions - 1
"They’ve Taken Away My Identity!"John 13:23 - One of them, the disciple whom Jesus loved, was reclining next to him.Jesus nicknamed John the apostle, along with his...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 14
2 Corinthians 12:9 - My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.People used to think that sickness and accidents happened to people because they had done...
October 1st, 2004
Bible Study: Carrying Burdens and Euthanasia
Importance of this Bible Study1) Life issues are broadening or shifting to each end of the life spectrum: beginning of life through end of life.2) Personally we are not victims of abortion,...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 4 of 6: Answers
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Is Adoption Still the Forgotten Option?
Last month, Dateline NBC told the story of a young couple's decision to have a baby who had been diagnosed with Down syndrome. The story, which took place in 1998, is worth recalling...
October 1st, 2004
Q&A on the Federal Marriage Amendment Issue
Background:The U.S. Senate took up the Federal Marriage Amendment (FMA) the week of July 12, 2004. The U.S. Senate voted on July 14, 2004 to kill the amendment by a 48-50 procedural...
October 1st, 2004
A Model for Marriage
A marriage based on the Bible will help couples fulfill their God-given roles and experience true and complete oneness.The bride did everything wrong. Again and again, she brought grief...
October 1st, 2004
Should I Baptize My Baby?
Why Baptize Babies?The Bible doesn’t tell us anywhere how old a person must be at the time of baptism. Jesus commanded us to baptize "all nations" (Matthew 28:19) and...
October 1st, 2004
The Value of Self-Esteem
We want to reject the misuse and the distortions of self-esteem, not waste the value that the concept provides.Some years ago, social scientists recognized what most have known for...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 13
Acts 17:26-27 - And he determined the times set for them....God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him.As we think about the approaching end...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing in Love
Something perceived to be beyond the ability to cope, not related to a desire to carry.Understanding the Terms:Burden:Review the following passages: Numbers 11:14; Nehemiah 5:15; Psalm...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 5 of 6: Questions
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
All Stressed Out
As a Christian, you have an edge in coping with stress!You're stuck in traffic. Horns honking, motorists screaming. It's Monday. You worked all weekend, but you're still behind deadline.You...
October 1st, 2004
The Skinny on Kids and TV
The number one incentive for taking control of your youngsters’ television habits is their spiritual health. Doing it for the sake of their physical health is also very compelling.Recent...
October 1st, 2004
Reserving Sex for Marriage
God’s precious gift of sex is only for those who publicly promise faithfulness to one another for life.Since the sexual revolution of the 1960s, the idea of reserving sexual relations...
October 1st, 2004
'Til Death Us Do Part
Marriage has been instituted by God, and he continues to regulate it.The dream of many a young girl is to be a June bride. For reasons not entirely clear, June remains a popular wedding...
October 1st, 2004
Making the Most of Family Time
Expect that friends will not understand that you won't play softball every Tuesday night, in order to be at home with the kids."I just don't have the time," I sighed in exasperation....
October 1st, 2004
We Live Together as a Family
We Live Together as a Family...To the Glory of GodAs a family, the first thing we do is love one another.We were not a family. We have become a family -- by the grace of God. Now we...
October 1st, 2004
How are Your Priorities?
While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of a man known as Simon the Leper, a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 12
Acts 17:26-27 - And he determined the times set for them....God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him.As we think about the approaching end...
October 1st, 2004
The Purpose of Marriage
When God created the woman and brought her to Adam, thus establishing marriage, no mention is made of offspring. Companionship alone is spoken of. "God ordained marriage, not in...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 5 of 6: Answers
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Today's Media: Parental Discernment
dis-cern-ment [noun]: keenly selective judgment, good taste and judgment"Parents, it's 11:00 P.M. ... Do you know where your children are?"Are you old enough to remember local television...
October 1st, 2004
Saved Sex Is the Only Safe Sex
As a teenager, I hear the media telling my peers and me about sex more than any other topic. I have to ask myself two questions:What are they telling us? And, are we listening? Overwhelmingly,...
October 1st, 2004
Two Halves of a Complementary Whole
What our God-given gender differences are and how understanding them can help you communicate better with the opposite sex.We don't have to read very far into Genesis before we learn...
October 1st, 2004
Talking to Our Teens
"Hey." (in an artificial low voice)"How was school today?""School." (with a shrug)"What did you do?""Stuff.""What kind of stuff?" (dumb question)"Ugh, Dad, you're so annoying.""Sorry,...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 27
Psalm 37:7 - Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.Don't you wish you were in one of those hospitals you see on television? You come in, they cure you, and out you go...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 11
Luke 11:9 - Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.There are times when it almost doesn’t seem worth it to pray. It...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 6 of 6: Questions
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Saying 'Yes' to Sex
Society has always had trouble with the subject of sex. Some societies like the Victorian have hidden the topic in a closet as if it did not exist. Sex went on as usual, including its...
October 1st, 2004
WANTED: A Truly Beautiful Wife
What to look for when choosing the woman you want to marry.I married the most beautiful woman I ever met. She was charming and funny, lively and loved by all. Her greatest personal...
October 1st, 2004
Teens Don't Walk the Talk
In a poll of 20,000 middle and high schoolers, 70 percent of high school students admitted cheating on an exam at least once in the past year. In 1996 the cheating rate was 64 percent.The...
October 1st, 2004
Abortion - Men Hurt in Silence
"I'm pregnant."These are powerful words that can evoke fear, anxiety, joy and confusion in men. An unplanned pregnancy puts men in a peculiar place; on one side he is supposed to stand...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 25
Matthew 28:20 - Surely I will be with you always...I miss my room! I miss my bed! I miss my TV and stereo! I miss my toys and my dolls and my pet! I miss my mom and dad! I don’t...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 10
Psalm 46:1-2 - God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore, we will not fear.There are times when the words of Psalm 46 seem hollow to us. After all,...
October 1st, 2004
Burden Sharing Part 6 of 6: Answers
Former Colorado Governor Richard Lamb once said it was wrong for the elderly to become a burden upon their family and society. God's Word tells us something different. This is Part...
October 1st, 2004
Sharing the Facts of Life
I trusted him when he told me, "I love you." He trusted me when I said the same. We trusted our emotions when they said, "It's OK. Show each other how much you care." When our relationship...
October 1st, 2004
When Dad Hits Mom
Seven suggestions to make your congregation safe for victims of domestic violence.In my career as a prosecutor, I have worked with hundreds of victims of domestic violence. I have seen...
October 1st, 2004
Understanding Parenting Teenage Mothers
In 1988, while looking for organizations specifically serving parenting teenage mothers, I was saddened by the realization that very few such organizations existed. There were many...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 26
Psalm 31:15 - My times are in your hands.Do you know what’s frustrating? Thinking abut how easily you might NOT have had to come to the hospital. If you’d been fifteen seconds...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 9
Hebrews 13:5 - "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."Why should the Lord be my daily companion? He has every reason to abandon me. My lifestyle has not always...
October 1st, 2004
The Vaccination Quandary
When a couple is expecting their first child, often times hopes, dreams and aspirations take center stage. The parents know they are going to love and care for their child, and plan...
October 1st, 2004
The Father and Issues of Life and Death: Questions
When abortion is marketed to the general public its advocates emphasize the autonomous right of the woman to make this decision. Society has so bought into that notion that in 1976...
October 1st, 2004
Shepherding Your Teens to Adulthood
Teen dating? Perhaps, it's time to asign these words to the dustbin of outmoded phrases. At least, if most 15 year-olds had their way, they would be happy never to hear these words...
October 1st, 2004
Burdensome Babies
In a society where infanticide (by way of abortion) is an acceptable practice, and sex education includes the use of dolls that simulate real babies to teach teens how burdensome parenthood...
October 1st, 2004
Parenting When Your Child Goes Down the Wrong Path
When Things Go Wrong: What to do, and not to do, when your child goes down the wrong path.David and Dennis are brothers. They share the same Mom and Dad and grew up in the same household,...
October 1st, 2004
When Life Seems to Have No Meaning
Why did I not perish at birth, and die as I came from the womb? We know such a question is not uncommon in our world. We live among a people who not only may ask such a question concerning...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 24
Matthew 10:29 - Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them falls to the ground apart from the will of your Father.People lying in hospital beds often spend the hours...
October 1st, 2004
Hospital Devotions - 8
Matthew 14:27 - "Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid."They say only a fool is never afraid. But lately it seems as though fear and uncertainty have taken over my...
October 1st, 2004
It Is More Blessed to Give Than to Receive
I am not sure when I first heard these words. "It is more blessed to give than to receive" sounds like something out of a stewardship program from church so I suppose that...
October 1st, 2004
The Father and Issues of Life and Death: Answers
When abortion is marketed to the general public its advocates emphasize the autonomous right of the woman to make this decision. Society has so bought into that notion that in 1976...
October 1st, 2004
Institutional Devotions - 2
"I Feel So Alone"John 19:28 - Jesus said, "I am thirsty."A crowd had gathered to watch the controversial teacher Jesus be slowly and painfully executed on a cross....
January 1st, 2004
Setting the Pace Without Getting Trampled
THIS IS WHAT THE LORD SAYS:How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! (1 John 3:1)At the start, it is important...
October 1st, 1999
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